You may have tried everything you could to save your marriage, including counseling, but if you’re like nearly half of all married couples in Wisconsin and throughout the United States, it simply didn’t work out. While divorce is difficult, you know you’re not alone. If you’re feeling unhappy in your marriage, you may be wondering if your reasons are valid enough to file for a divorce. Wisconsin is a no-fault divorce state, meaning you don’t have to prove your reasons for wanting a divorce to a judge. Nobody should have to feel trapped in a miserable marriage.

Common Signs That Your Marriage Is Ending

Every couple has problems now and then, and many of them can be overcome. However, some pervasive problems only worsen over time, leading to one or both spouses feeling like the marriage should end. According to Health Central, it may be better to end the relationship if any of the following is occurring:

  • Feeling like you’re giving too much without getting anything in return.
  • Wanting to do things without your spouse, or with others so you don’t have to spend time alone with your spouse.
  • Feeling ongoing resentment or contempt toward your spouse, or walking on eggshells to keep from upsetting him or her.
  • Constantly fighting or being on edge.
  • Counseling didn’t help or one spouse refused to go to counseling.
  • There was an affair that was not resolved; the spouse having the affair didn’t break off the relationship or do everything possible to make amends.

It’s especially important to get out of a marriage if domestic violence is an issue. If you fear for your safety, start taking steps to get help leaving.

Not surprisingly, children are greatly affected by their parents’ divorce. It’s hard on them and they can feel like the end of their parents’ marriage was their fault, says the Mayo Clinic. It’s still better for children to grow up in a peaceful, loving home, rather than having to live where there’s constant tension and arguing. When you’ve decided to get a divorce, it’s important to be honest and patient when breaking the news to the kids. The way each parent treats each other after the split also affects a child’s long-term adjustment. Treat each other with respect, even if you can’t get along, and don’t argue over child custody or support issues in front of the kids. Make sure to let children know you both are there for them, and that they can always share their feelings openly.

Getting Help From A Lawyer

Divorce is difficult for everyone involved, but an experienced family law attorney will be able to protect your rights. If you’re considering a divorce, contact an attorney, who can help you with every stage of the process.